In NYC
In the year of our lord 2025
Good for you, congrats on cracking your eggie
and realizing your trans.
You may be overwhelmed, you may have been in denail for so long, you don't even know what to do---now that you've accepted your true self.
You may be broke, and worried your identity will cause you to question your entire sexulaity and dating life, or cause your partner to leave you.
You might be worried about loosing your job if they find out.
You might be worried about loosing your job if they find out.
you may not pass yet you may not even know if you want to pass or how much?
You may have unaccepting parents and friends,
You may be wondering, am I a nightlife, rave, punk show trans bitch, or a chronically online twitch streamer trans bitch, ---you may be insucre about fitting into or not fitting into trans stereotypes. You may be lacking a lot of friends or support system, you may not have any therapist to talk about your gender feelings with, or not have a ton of knolwage of how to get hormones, or sugury, how much do they cost? How do I find community...how do I fart? Is farting different now? (no)
You may be afraid of the government making trans things illegal every day--you may not know what any of that means for you, or what is even going on??
You may be comparing yourself to other trans people online, you don't know your style yet, your gender expression.
You may genuinely still be struggling with dysphoria, self doubt and wonder when if you'll ever look like and feel at home in your gender at last. And feel scared for your future and the changes that may come.
You may not even know where to even start.
Well never fear
THIS BICTH IS HERE---
Bitch
Here is everything you ever needed to know about being trans. (how to be trans and educated about everything a trans person in NYC could ever need, (on a budget)
for trans people and not trans people (including trans kids and teens)
And a section for (Curious cis people and allies)
Post Table of Contents:
Cis Allies (everything you need to know about your trans friends)
Under Ten Prominent Categories:
1. Trans Definitions.
2. Debunking Myths.
3. What trans people are/Are not.
4. Ettiqute. (How to be woke and respectful with trans people)
3. Good Trans Respenation fims vs Bad Ones.
4. Great YouTube videos about trans people for beginners.
5. Why trans people are under attack (Need your soppprt now more then ever)
6. How to help Trans people. (finally, emotionally, socially, etc)
For trans people: (Oviously anyone can read any section)
Im gonna break this into 3 parts
Advice for Trans men,
trans women and
nonbinary people
Each category I will break down the pronmate trans categories, with different advice for each kind of trans person, but Lots of the aavidce can be taken by all trans people as a whole.
Under 10 prominent trans categories
1. Dealing with the bigots in your way <online satay, anti discrimination law, how tp deal with housing/employment discrimination >
2. Community (how to find trans community, friends, reliable allies in NYC, recommendations of great consistently meeting trans groups, activists as well as social groups that are trans focused)
3. Definitions
9. Types of trans people/discourse to avoid or trans pitfalls not to fall into.
4. Dating/hookups (queer trans friendly dating apps)
3. Jobs (how to get a job while trans, best jobs for trans people of all types, how to navigate employment discrimination)
7. Sex Work. (lots of trans people do sex work, you don't have to be one of them, but if you need too, here's the safest and easiest way to start) (tryst, how to break into porn industry, how to get approved for only fans and fansley. ANd how to advertize that stuff without being demonitzied, who to be be private, hide it from friend and family. How to get a sugar daddy, how to avdertize yourself, how to avoid being fetshizhed and pressed to do things that are degrading to you as a trans person.)
8. Trans friendly /affirming locations NYC (Trans hot spots NYC, neighborhoods, bars, bookstores, etc.
4.actvisim in NYC for trans rights (begginers guide how to get involved/how to support)
5. DIY hrt (how to do it safely)
6. Terminology (definitions even for trans people to remember, especially for the more underrated identities)
8. THE STATE AND FEDERAL GOVERNMENT (important laws, and information, updating anti trans laws,
9. Great films, books, documentaries, web comics, and tv shows featuring trans people in good representation.
0. How to avoid awkward situations as a trans person /what to do in tricky situations.
3. Creator Recomdations (Promanate Trans infuencers, and YouTubers that make content on trans issues or are trans themselves and can be recorded to trans people especially ones just starting out.
5. If you're a trans minor (how to deal with unacceptable parents, how to get healthcare,what hopstails are still providing healthcare for minors in NYC and witch ones aren't, how to find resources within/outside of school, under 21 great places to go for Trans kids and teens that are accepting, to have fun, make friends, learn skills, and find community. (For free and not for free) Great places to shop, trans friendly /kid-friendly events, how to deal with transpobic bullying at school, how to dye your hair at home (get fake pricing and tattoos) Free school tutoring, resroces for students and kids now that isn't chat gbt, to help with homework and test taking and education. Debunking myths about minors taking hrt, blockers, and even getting top sugury (Full Myth busyter from science magazines, with eveince for any not accepting parents.) Child Rights philopshy, child human rights movembt litatrchure to reclaim your atayomy. (Jobs you can hold at 14-16 years of age, ways to gain fincail independence while still in high school/middle school. How to deal with bullies, (comebacks, revenge tactics, how to file a covert police report against your bullies, how to call CPS on your abusive parents, how to find a cheap phone /cheap phone plan for kids who need secret phones but parents wont let them have their own phone. Funds to apply to as a trans youth/trans at risk youth for help/money/resroces. Hotlines, trevor project --alterative's, (things you can do if you can't start HRT yet, to help in the meantime, clothing hacks, makeup hacks, if Trans man (buy balding juice at CVS for 30$ drip it on and rub it on your face once a day for months, I used it it works it grows hair, you will grow a small mustache, and beard and chest hair its a form of testrotrone though much less strong then the real thing, MTF (food that has increased estrogen to eat, Metapause cream with high estrogen in it to apply to ones body, claim it was for your friends mom or change the label so if your parents find it, they will not find out what it really is)
3. Gender presentation [clothes, makeup packing/tucking, drag, accessories, finding your style, where to get free clothes/makeup ect]
6. Legal documents <updating gender marker on id and passport, legally changing your name
7. Great Trans movies/Tv shows (And shitty ones to avoid)
7.heathcare <HRT, DIY HRT, NYC CLINICS TO GET IT 4 FREE, how to afford sugary without heath insurance , how to get on medicaid ect
8. Housing <trans friendly housing cheap housing trans friendly homless shelters
9. Mental Heath <free Thearpy trans friendly free therapy <self acceptance advice >
10. Gender Bucket list (Transition goals, gender affirming things you wanna do)
11.Tech <online surviry how to protect your indenity online with new laws advice website and creator recommendations for trans people and best websites to use. For all kinds of purposes (shinigami eyes,
12. Icons/History/stats and statstics.
13. Trans advice (how to be confident, trans eddiqute, how to not out people, how to use neopronouns, how to give mutail aid to trans people etc)
Pronouns definition:
Gender pronouns are words used to refer to people in the third person, such as "he/him/his," "she/her/hers," or "they/them/theirs," that signal their gender identity.:
This part is 4 our Cis Allies
1. Part one:
Defintions
For the confused Cis Allies to no longer be confused
Were going back to basics
(everything you need to know about your trans friends) Girl, you need a refresher bitch!
I know you dont wanna be canceled on twitter
No jk, but seriously its not that complicated, never assume you know everything about a group of people, because I garntee there is a lot you dont know and trans people dont wanna educate you every five seconds. It's your job to educate yourself.
Hense why This Goofy Trans Manchild (me) is gonna break it down for you.
Hense why This Goofy Trans Manchild (me) is gonna break it down for you.
Leaving NOTHING to the imagination.
Trust me bitch, avter this, you will be the wokest ally at the Tboy wresting afterparty in Bushwick in a basement that smells like lube and seaweed.
Your gonna be so cool and woke, everyone will love you and you'll never have any problems again!
So pay attention!
I will be educating you my Cis readses Under Ten Trans Prominent Categories: That cis people always seems
1. Transgender Definitions.
The Basics:
1. Transgender:
Denoting or relating to a person whose gender identity does not correspond with the sex registered for them at birth.
--Being transgender is only one thing that falls under the Larger Transgender umbrella witch covers anything that's gender diverse. From Crossdressers, Tomboys, Femboys, (people with gender non conforming presitaion but dont neciciarly idenfy as transgender) Ovisliouly athe forefront of the community, is the traditional type of trans person: Binary Trans people (Female to male, and male to female trans people) Aka Trnas people who were born with one pairo of genitals/given a corpsonding gender by their doctor, --and later in life from ages 3 to 103, realize they are in fact, the opposite gender to the one they were forced to live in the body of. Then lastely, the transgender umkbrealla also covers the Nonbinary Umbrealla, witch covers all nonbinary identities, or idneeities oustdie the gender binary of male, and female. (Such as Genderfluid, Bigender, Agender, greygender, Demiboy, Demigirl, and infinitely more)As well as Two spirt the third gender from indigenous cultures, X gender in parts of Asia, all fall under the nonbinary umbrella. Most nonbinary people use they/them, it/its, or various other Xonopronouns, or neopronouns that better fit their true gender(witch will be elabroated on later. Since there's a lot of mockery and misconception about them) ---
Nonbinary
denoting, having, or relating to a gender identity that does not conform to traditional binary beliefs about gender, which indicate that all individuals are exclusively either male or female.
Being nonbinary is simply not identifying as male or female; there's a whole wide world outside of those two strict binaries.
Intersex.
Intersex refers to a condition in which individuals are born with variations in their sex characteristics that do not fit the typical binary definitions of male or female. Being intersex doesn't mean you're transgender, but many still are. Its not common, its not common to be trans, its even less common to be Intersex.
Examples of ways one can be born intersex:
- Chromosomes: Individuals may have an atypical combination of chromosomes, such as XXY or XO.
- Gonads: They may have a mix of male and female gonads (testes and ovaries) or only one type of gonad.
- Hormones: Their hormone levels may not be typical for their sex.
- Genitals: Their external or internal genitals may not be fully consistent with their chromosomes or gonads.
It's important to note that intersex is a broad umbrella term that encompasses a diverse range of conditions. Individuals with intersex variations may have different experiences and identities, and there is no single definition that applies to all.
Great film about a teen girl growing up Intersex: fitting in directed by jennlee MonaeAFAB and AMAB
Asiagned male at birth ; AMAB and assigned female at birth ; AFAB. They are commonly used Acyromes to express a trans persons implied birth gender without saying something poissibly invadating or dysphoria-inducing like "Born as. a female/male, Male/female, biogoical male, etc Also a more incudive way of talking about lots of people without being exxulatiory for example if your talking about a wemones event but want to include nonibinary people and transwemon, say AFAB or just queer Femmes and enbies. This can be tricky one though as it often reproduces gender binary hiarachies and diveion just under a trans lense. But can be helpful when referring to trans people in many cases.
Pronouns
Gender pronouns are words used to refer to people in the third person, such as "he/him/his," "she/her/hers," or "they/them/theirs," that signal their gender identity.: they exist in almost every language but this is how gender pronouns work in the English language.
Personal Pronouns:
Subject Pronouns: I, you, he, she, it, we, they
Object Pronouns: me, you, him, her, it, us, them
Possessive Pronouns: mine, yours, his, hers, its, ours, theirs
Deadname
A transgender persona birthname /name they had prior to changing it due to their gender transition. Weather legally or socially, often both.
Example "he was addressed with the wrong pronouns and deadnamed"
Femboy
A femboy is a male or non-binary person who expresses themselves with traditionally feminine characteristics, such as clothing, makeup, and demeanor. The term combines "feminine" and "boy" and, while sometimes used as a derogatory slur, has been reappropriated as a term of self-identification within the LGBTQ+ community. The key aspect of being a femboy is the expression of a feminine side of one's appearance and behavior, but it does not inherently define their gender identity, which can vary.
Tomboy
A girl who enjoys rough, noisy activities traditionally associated with boys. Ussally associated with younger girls with a masculine gender presentation and demeanor. Not to be confused with masc, butch or Stud similar but distinct womens masculine identities. thease are spiffically tied to lesbian identity spiffically these identities are often tied to not just being masuline but filling the more active "boyfriend" role in a lesbian butch/Femme dynamic to mimic but not recreate the heterosexual male female gender roles within mainstream hetrosexual reationships.
Cross Dresser
<can but isnt always a kink thing not talking about the kink kind here just the non Sexual kind of cross dresser that falls under the trans umbrella >
Crossdresser definition:
a person of any gender who wears clothing typical of the opposite gender.
neopronouns
Neopronouns are new or newly created personal pronouns, distinct from established gendered pronouns like he/him or she/her and the widely used gender-neutral they/them. Coined for a variety of reasons, particularly by nonbinary and genderqueer individuals, these pronouns provide a way for people to express their unique gender identities and experiences. Examples include xe/xem/xyrs, ze/hir/hirs, e/em/eirs, and even less conventional options such as moon/moon/moonself or frog/frogself.
What Are Neopronouns?
"Neo" means "new":
The prefix "neo-" signifies that these are new pronouns, either created or gaining popularity in modern usage.
For identity and expression:
Neopronouns are used by some transgender and nonbinary people to better reflect their individual identities and perspectives, moving beyond existing gender categories.
Limitless variety:
The set of neopronouns is potentially vast, as people can create and choose almost any pronoun to suit their personal identity.
Examples of Neopronouns
Neopronouns often come in sets of three or more, similar to established pronouns, with a nominative form (subject), an objective form (object), and a possessive form.
Common examples:
Xe/Xem/Xy: r
Ze/Hir/Hirs
E/Em/Eirs
Less conventional examples:
Bun/Bunself: As in, "Bun likes to play with bunself".
Moon/Moonself: As in, "Moon does not want to be bothered; leave moonself alone".
Frog/Frogself: As in, "Frog sat on the log, enjoying frogself".
How to Use and Respect Neopronouns
1. Ask for someone's pronouns:
The most important way to show respect is to create an inclusive environment by asking for pronouns.
2. Share your own pronouns:
You can share your pronouns during introductions to make it easier for others to share theirs.
3. Use them in a sentence:
Apply the neopronouns as you would any other pronoun. For example, instead of "He forgot his keys," you would say, "Xe forgot xir keys".
4. Ask for clarification if unsure:
If you are unfamiliar with a person's neopronouns, don't be afraid to ask them for clarification on pronunciation and usage.
5. Don't assume:
Avoid assuming someone's pronouns based on their appearance or any other characteristic.
Second Puberty
Second Birthday
New Seuxlaity
Gender Evny
Transbian
T4T
Gender Dysphoria
Androngrnous
Dolls
Passing
Post /Pre opt
Stelth
Puppygirl
Egg
Gender Eoprhoia
Gender Abolitionist
Bad Trans Counties to avoid:
Transmediclist
Radqueer
Baddels (trans girls who hate trans guys)
Trans drama YouTubers who deadname other trans people
Kink comunties who fetsiihize being trans
Wierd TTI anti trans conversion therapy
Gender esslsinist
Pcik me
Nazi ?Incel/femboys
Complcianet Libreal democrat core
OUTDATED TERMS:
(and slurs) (Terms that you should never use for Trans People.)
Transexual:
Some trans people still use "Transsexual" for their own experiences, of being binary trans people who transitioned, but Transmeclaist* transphobic and bigoted trans creators, like BUCK Angel and blair white, who use the term to exluude and inavadiate nonbinary and non passing trans people to separate themes;ves from the community, so watch out for that. But air on the side of not saying it, for most trans people referring to the community overall and especially cis pepiole trefering. the community, the term is outdated and offensive and is not used. (Expect when singing Rocky Horror Keroke of course!!!)
Transvestite.
Even more outdated, never use, like ever.
Invert:
The most outdated ever, I don't think people even know this old-timey word outside of like queer historians and 4 chan nazis, Either way, needless to say, don't use it!
Troon/Pooner:
Really offensive, degrading and ultra transphobic 4chan internet slang anti-trans slur, mostly to degrade Trans men. If you see it in the wild, call it out, dont use it, unless you want everyone to to think your an alt right transphiobe that lives on 8chan and hasn't seen sunlight in 2,000 years.
Shemale.
Never use this one. Really offensive to trans women. Mostly a porn category, anyway, but even if you wanna watch trans wemon porn, dont look up Shemale.yum, you'll find just as good porn if you just look up trans wemon in your pornhub search bar, seriously its not worth It to even type it out and have that stain on your search history.
Trap:
Uber crass, offensive term for trans women and fembois tricking trans people into bed. Really offensive and results in lots of real-life violence.
Never use this one either.
Sissy
A real harmless kink, (as all real kinks are) that intersects with Hypno kink and race play, Sissy degradation or force fem kink is fine and normal (The kink where a man gets off on the perceived humiliation and submission of being dressed as a girl/a sissy and fucked and dominated by a much more masculine man enforcing the sissy role onto him -Think being someone prison bitch but with consent) But it has nothing to do with trans people especially not trans Wemon, truly never call a trans woman this or bring it up about trans people. Trans people are not sex or kink, and equating us with sex, even gender play kinks you think you can slip in and ignorant people won't notice---NO, stop oversexalizing trans people by acting like being trans itself. is a fetish, it's not. And saying were all just doing a fetish is very offensive and harmful and just plain wrong.
TIM
A Terf (Trans exulsuonary radical femmnist) Aka mostly British older wemon who think trans people are a danger to wemon and "femmists", especially Trans Wemon.
TIM stands for Trans Idenified Male, and is used to call trans women men and is often used by JK Rowling and other twitter Terfs, for some years now. Needless to say dont use this one, ever.
Degenerate:
Weird nazi word for all queer people. (seriously the actual histrpial Nazis loved this world and used it lost of porgadnada against queer people,e socially trans people.) Watch out for it, even ironic use. And dont use it.
Using their dead name/wrong pronouns:
Needless to say if you know a Trans persons deadname, (name trans person used before they came out a s trans and changed their name and pronouns) if your a decent person you would take that shit to your grave, and never use it again in any way ever again, especially if they already changed their legal name and no one else in their life knows their deadname.
let me be clear, Using a trans persons deadname to insult, dox, expose, or get revenge on them is evil, and is outing them when that might not be safe, and even if their already out as trans ---Deadnaming even if you arent being meclious and evil, and are just saying it to them inn any content, just dont, because that's a huge betryal and a huge no no, never use a trans persons deadname, its cruel dangerous and also can cause Trans people to be exposed, stalked and dehumanized witch nobody deserves.
Same goes for using their wrong pronouns on perhaps, after you clearly already know tyheri correct pronouns, very shitty --nevr do it. (Only anti trans hate sits like Kewwii farms and hateful alt write drama YouTubers like Trkey Tom, actually talk about trans people and expose their deadname and refer to them as the wrong pronouns on perpuse, nobody actually does that to trans people its a huge dick move, dont be a dick.
Rapist/Groomer/Pedophile.
Especially for trans women, if you see a trans woman, especially a promanate trans person, in a position of success or power who everyone wants to take down a peg, and maybe even was imperfect or made some mistakes (as we all do!) but nothing illegal or nefarious. If you see a drag queen or a trans woman in that position being called a pedophile, groomer with no evidence, or victims or any indication they actually committed those crimes in any way....especially if the person calling a prominent queer woman/female presenting person a groomer is a open member of the far right? yeah...Its probably just groomer panic/and you should ignore it/stand up for them and put that bigot in his place.
"Teens on TikTok" Truecute/Transtrender:
All dogwitsles for transphobic drivile. Usually revered for enbies or non-passing trans people, /Gender nonconforming, fat auststic, nonwhite and not conventionally attractive trans people, who get ire from trans and non trans people alike --who tend to accuse them all of faking being trans for attention just because they don't fit a very strict mold of the"Normal trans person" Somthing that should have been clear but...You can't know if anyone is faking being trans on tik tok, no one really ever fakes being trans, and there's literally zero way to know because you cant read minds. Shocker I know...you dont know someone else's experience, and if someone says their trans always belive them above all else. No one can fake being trans, just because they don't fit your fake ass, ever-shifting, flimsy ass molds. Just because someone has died hair, has autism or a mental illness, is a silly passionate over the top personality, just because they use neopronouns, have DID/Skitforenia or weird interests you dont understand, just because they dont pass, get gender dysphoria or dont want or can't afford medical transition, doesn't mean they're not trans. You literally aren't in their head. Discounting someone's identity is like saying a man is not a man because he acts like a little bitch, so you decide to call him she/her forever and say he's not a real man and you don't believe he's not a woman. You know,
Transgender
2. Debunking Myths.
3. What trans people are/are not.
4. Ettiqute. (How to be woke and respectful with trans people)
3. Good Trans Respenation films vs Bad Ones.
4. Great YouTube videos about trans people for beginners.
5. Creator Recommendations (YouTubers who talk about trans stuff, to support, learn from and enjoy!)
5. Why Trans people are under attack (Need your support now more then ever)
6. How to help Trans people. (finally, emotionally, socially, etc)
